Legally Clueless
Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality and social activist Adelle Onyango. She documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It also features Africans sharing stories from their lives that teach, make us cry, and make us laugh.
Episodes
Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | For Mannerless Women
Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | Jaxx Of All Trades on Redefining Womanhood What does it really mean to become a free woman? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with South African social, political and current affairs commentator Jaxx Of All Trades for a thought-provoking conversation on identity, confidence, beauty standards, freedom and choosing a life beyond society's
The Hidden Cost Of Losing Yourself In Love | Mid Week Tease
The Hidden Cost of Losing Yourself in LoveHow do intelligent, capable women slowly lose themselves in relationships without even noticing? In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the subtle ways many women begin organising their lives around everyone else's needs while quietly losing touch with their own. Drawing from psychology, personal experience, and insights from accredited psychologis
I Was Bullied For Being Myself PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 386
I Was Bullied For Being Myself (Part 2) After choosing hairdressing over university, Johnny is determined to prove to himself, and his family, that he made the right decision. In Part Two of his story, we follow his journey from earning KSh 4,800 a month in his first salon job to becoming one of Kenya's most sought-after celebrity hairstylists. But success comes with difficult choices. Johnny open
The Freedom Of Choosing Yourself | For Mannerless Women
The Freedom Of Choosing YourselfWhat if the life you've been told to want isn't the only beautiful life available to you?This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Zimbabwean musician, mbira player, published poet and artist Hope Masike for a conversation about reclaiming freedom, questioning the timelines women inherit, and creating a life that feels deeply aligned. Together they ex
The Silent Cost Of Being The Strong Woman | Mid Week Tease
The Silent Cost Of Being The Strong Woman | Mid Week Tease Women account for nearly 80% of people diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. While biology, hormones, genetics and environmental factors are all important pieces of the puzzle, another question deserves our attention:What does decades of emotional suppression, chronic caregiving and relentless stress do to a woman's body?In this week's Mid W
I Was Bullied For Being Myself | Legally Clueless Ep 385
I Chose Myself Every Time | Jony The Hairdresser (Part 1)Many know Jony The Hairdresser as the celebrity hairstylist behind some of Kenya's biggest names. Others know him as the hilarious Sister Nancy and Brother Bernard from social media. But before any of that, he was a little boy from Naivasha trying to understand why simply being himself made him a target.In Part One of Jony's story, he takes
The Most Powerful Question A Woman Can Ask Herself: "What Do I Want?" | For Mannerless Women
The Most Powerful Question A Woman Can Ask Herself: "What Do I Want?" | Sofi (The Oddity) What happens when you stop living according to everyone else's expectations and start making decisions based on what you truly want? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with digital creator, storyteller and podcaster Sofi (The Odditty) for a deeply honest conversation about reclaiming ow
Your Marriage Ended. Your Story Didn't. | Finding Yourself After Divorce with Faith Guchu | Mid Week Tease
Your Marriage Ended. Your Story Didn't. | Finding Yourself After Divorce with Faith Guchu Divorce isn't just the end of a marriage. It's the loss of shared dreams, identity, routines, belonging, and sometimes even yourself. In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle sits down with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu for an honest conversation about what healing after divorce really looks like. Together
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 384
"I Was Declared Cancer-Free"At just 25 years old, Annkia was diagnosed with a rare form of bladder cancer after living with unexplained pain for most of her life.In the final part of her story, she shares the emotional days leading up to major surgery, surviving a life-threatening bout of sepsis, and the remarkable care she received from a doctor who not only treated her illness but restored her h
The Gap Between Who They See & Who You Are | For Mannerless Women
What happens when the woman the world celebrates isn't the same woman you experience when you're alone?In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with DJ, broadcaster, creative entrepreneur, and healer Precious Nkadimeng (Spoken Priestess) for a powerful conversation about self-trust, spirituality, identity, and the journey back to yourself.Together, they explore the tension between
The Lie Women Are Sold About Being Good | Mid Week Tease
The Lie Women Are Sold About Being Good What if one of the greatest obstacles to your freedom isn't other people, it's the version of womanhood you've been taught to perform? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the hidden costs of being "a good woman," why so many women struggle to choose themselves, and the deeper fear that often sits underneath self-abandonment: the fear of freedo
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 383
For years, Annkia knew that something wasn't right.She had spent most of her life living with pain, navigating hospital visits, procedures, medication, and conflicting diagnoses. But despite everything she was experiencing, the answers never seemed to come.In Part 2 of her story, Annkia shares what happened when she finally met a doctor who listened. What followed was a series of tests that reveal
Pleasure, Freedom & The Myth Of The Good Woman | For Mannerless Women
Pleasure, Freedom & The Myth Of The Good Woman | Nana Darkoa SekyiamahWhat does it mean to be a "good woman"?And who benefits when women spend their lives trying to fit into that role?In the first episode of this special season of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, activist and author Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah for a deeply liberating conversation about pleasure, freedom, w
What Ends With You? Breaking Generational Cycles | Mid Week Tease
This week on Mid Week Tease, we're talking about generational cycles! Not just the obvious ones, but the invisible family rules, coping mechanisms, beliefs and survival strategies that quietly shape our lives. Many of us inherit ways of thinking, loving, communicating and surviving long before we're old enough to question them. We grow up believing they're simply part of who we are. But what happe
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old | Legally Clueless Ep 382
For years, Annkia knew something wasn't right. At just 9 years old, she was living with constant pain, countless trips to the bathroom, and long periods away from school. As doctors searched for answers, she found herself navigating a childhood marked by hospital visits, procedures, medication, and the loneliness of being misunderstood.In Part 1 of her story, Annkia shares what it was like growing
The Red Flag We Mistake For Vulnerability | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores one of the most confusing relationship dynamics: loving someone who is deeply attached to being the victim. Not everyone who has experienced pain is stuck in victimhood. Many people carry trauma, grief and heartbreak while still taking accountability for their actions. But what happens when someone's wounds become their identity? When every ex was t
My Teacher Said I Would Amount To Nothing PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 381
As a child, Jeanette Soi was repeatedly made to feel like she wasn't smart enough. In part two of her story, she shares how years of favoritism, public humiliation, and discouraging comments from teachers followed her into high school, shaping how she saw herself and her future.By Form Two, the pressure had become so overwhelming that she began questioning whether life was worth living. But throug
Who Are You Beyond Your Wounds? | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores a question many of us rarely ask ourselves:Who are you beyond your wounds?As women, we're often praised for how much we can endure. We celebrate resilience, sacrifice, and survival. But what happens when pain becomes the primary way we understand ourselves? In this episode, Adelle unpacks why so many women build identities around struggle, why suffe
My Teacher Said I Would Amount To Nothing | Legally Clueless Ep 380
When Jeanette Soi was growing up, school became a place where she slowly began to question her worth. In this deeply relatable episode, Jeanette shares memories of being publicly shamed for her grades, experiencing favoritism from teachers, and carrying the painful belief that her academic performance determined her future.As teachers and classmates repeatedly reinforced the idea that she wasn't s
The Women’s Health Conversation We Should’ve Had Years Ago | For Mannerless Women
What if the things women have been taught to “just endure” are actually signs that something is wrong?In this season finale of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Consultant Obstetrician & Gynecologist Dr Claire Kinuthia for one of the most important conversations we’ve had on the show.Together, they unpack menstrual cycles, PMS, PMDD, PCOS, fibroids, endometriosis, perimenopause
You’re Probably Resting Wrong. The 7 Types Of Rest We Actually Need | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the different kinds of rest and why sleep alone may not be fixing your exhaustion. So many of us are burnt out in ways we haven’t learned to name. We sleep, take breaks, scroll online, binge shows and still feel tired. Why? Because not all exhaustion is physical.In this episode, Adelle explores the 7 different types of rest, from emotional re
I Married The Wrong Man At 17 PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 379
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, Annitah Rae shares the second part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about surviving domestic violence in her marriage, becoming a young mother, struggling with alcoholism, navigating fame and media success while battling depression and suicidal thoughts privately, and the long journey toward healing, accountability, and self-awareness.Anni
Finding Your Voice & Refusing To Shrink As A Woman | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with activist, civic creator and political commentator Tatiana Gicheru for a powerful conversation about courage, womanhood, activism and choosing yourself unapologetically.Tatiana opens up about:Standing up to authority from a young ageFinding her voice through blogging & storytellingPleasure, shame & reclaiming ownership of wome
The Relationship Was Emotionally Unsafe | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks emotional abuse in romantic relationships what it is, how it manifests, why it’s often difficult to identify, and the long-term impact it can have on your nervous system, self-worth and sense of reality. Many people only recognize abuse when it becomes physical. But emotional abuse can be quieter, subtler and deeply destabilizing. It can look like ga
I Married The Wrong Man At 17 | Legally Clueless Ep 378
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, media personality, mental health advocate and GBV activist Annitah Rae shares the first part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about growing up feeling deeply loved by her father but struggling through a painful relationship with her mother, becoming rebellious as a teenager, substance use, running away from home, surviving life on the stre
Being Child-Free, Pleasure & Redefining Fulfillment | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with lawyer and entrepreneur Bev Munga, founder of Gspot Kenya and popularly known as “The Vibrating Lawyer.” In this bold and honest conversation, Bev opens up about:Building one of Kenya’s most talked-about pleasure brandsThe backlash she faced for centering women’s pleasureChoosing a child-free lifeSolo travel as self-careFulfillment o
The Discomfort Of No Longer People Pleasing | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the emotional discomfort that can come with finally standing up for yourself after years of people pleasing, weak boundaries, over-giving and self-abandonment. From romantic relationships to friendships, this episode explores what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable. Why does setting boundaries feel guilty?Why do
I Refused To Stay Silent PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 377
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. After spending years learning to silence her voice, Kui shares what happened when she slowly began reconnecting with herself again.From moving abroad at a young age, to navigating academia, leadership, activism, workplace politics, burnout, and eventually choosing to step away from the working world
Motherhood, Friendship Shifts & Choosing Yourself With Mama Olive | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mama Olive for a deeply honest conversation about motherhood, identity, friendship shifts, community, and choosing yourself.Mama Olive opens up about the realities of single motherhood, navigating postpartum rage, losing herself in relationships, and the emotional exhaustion that comes with raising children, especially without enough s
You’re Not Lazy. Maybe You’re Self-Sabotaging | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve.In
I Refused To Stay Silent | Legally Clueless Ep 376
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we begin Part 1 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. Kui takes us through her childhood growing up between Nairobi and Mombasa, being raised by multiple mother figures, and the powerful lineage of women who shaped her storytelling voice. She shares what it was like to grow up as a “different” child outspoken, curious, and deeply aware of injustice and how tho
A Man Is Not Oxygen: Choosing Yourself Without Fear | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, we sit down with Ciku Cheru, author, journalist, storyteller, and explorer, for a conversation that will challenge everything you’ve been taught about womanhood. From her grandmother who refused marriage and still built a full, thriving life, to her own journey of solo travel across 60+ countries, this episode is a powerful reminder that there is no one way to li
Why You Always Assume The Worst | Mid Week Tease
Have you ever had one small thing happen and within minutes your mind convinced you your whole life was about to fall apart? A delayed text becomes rejection. A difficult conversation becomes disaster. A money challenge becomes total collapse.This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks catastrophizing, the mental habit of assuming the worst-case scenario, and why so many of us confuse fear wit
The Shame I Inherited As A Child PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 375
What messages did you receive about yourself as a child and how have they shaped the way you love, trust and show up in the world today? In part one of this deeply moving two-part story, Wanjirah Kimani takes us back to her childhood in Murang’a, being raised by her grandmother, navigating parental absence, experiencing shame at home, and growing up believing love had to be earned through performa
Self-Love Is an Action. Here’s How to Rebuild It | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Temina Semo for a deeply honest conversation on self-love, identity, and the journey back to yourself. Temina shares what it was like growing up confident and expressive only to find herself shrinking in environments that tried to silence her.From strict school systems to societal expectations, we explore how many women slowly disconne
Boundaries Will Cost You Relationships And That’s Okay | Mid Week Tease
Setting boundaries will change your relationships. Not because you’re doing something wrong,but because you’re no longer showing up in ways that require you to abandon yourself. In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks why boundaries feel so difficult, why people react when you start setting them, and how to begin choosing yourself, without guilt.If you’ve ever struggled with
Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 374
In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Loise Njeri shares part 2 of her journey as a mama fua and what it really took to turn a side hustle into a business. After starting out doing laundry from her home while working a bank job, Loise opens up about the moment she decided to take a leap of faith and fully commit to her business, even when she wasn’t sure it would work.From opening her f
Therapy, Self-Worth & Choosing Yourself, Auntie Jemimah on Healing Out Loud | For Mannerless Women
What happens when the person who makes everyone laugh, is struggling inside? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with comedian and content creator Auntie Jemimah for a deeply honest conversation about healing, self-worth, and choosing yourself, fully and unapologetically.Auntie Jemimah opens up about how cyberbullying pushed her into therapy, the childhood experiences that
When Your Partner Feels Threatened By Your Growth | Mid Week Tease
There’s a kind of relationship that doesn’t look toxic at first. No shouting. No chaos. No obvious red flags. But something feels off. Your wins don’t feel safe to share. You feel like you’re “too much.”You start shrinking, just to keep the peace.On this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks a dynamic many women experience but struggle to name: What happens when the man you’re with is in c
Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business | Legally Clueless Ep 373
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, Loise Njeri shares her journey of becoming a mama fua, and how what started as survival slowly turned into a business. Raised in Nyandarua by a single mother who did everything she could to provide, Loise grew up watching firsthand what it means to work hard, adapt, and show up for your family, even when resources are limited. From navigating cultur
I Did The Most Trying To Be Loved Then I Had To Face Myself | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sarah Mukabana (Plus Wanga Princess) for a raw, honest, and deeply relatable conversation about self-worth, validation, and what it really takes to come back to yourself. From losing herself in a relationship where she constantly sought to be chosen, to navigating the messy aftermath of a breakup, Sarah opens up about the moments many women
What Healing Will Cost You | Mid Week Tease
Healing is beautiful but it’s not always soft. In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the side of healing no one really talks about, the part where growth costs you relationships, comfort, certainty, and even the version of yourself you once needed to survive. If you’ve been feeling lonely, confused, or like your life is shifting in uncomfortable ways, this episode will help
She Lost 2 Years Of Her Life Then Did The Impossible PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 372
After spending 2 years at home recovering, Patricia is told it’s time to go back to school. But how do you return to life when you’re not sure you can keep up? In Part 2 of this powerful story on the Legally Clueless Podcast, Patricia shares what it looked like to rebuild her confidence, her identity, and her future, step by step. From doubting her ability…to being questioned by teachers,to rising
You’re Too Valuable To Be This Undervalued | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Mandi Sarro for an honest, empowering conversation about value, money, and the mindset shifts every woman needs to make when it comes to charging what she’s worth. From the concept of “b*tch tax”, charging more for difficult clients, to unlearning the need for external validation, this episode dives into the real reasons so many women
This Is Why You Keep Playing Small | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the limiting beliefs that quietly shape how you see yourself, your work, your money, and your life. A lot of what we call self-doubt, fear, or “not feeling ready” isn’t random. It’s learned. Formed in childhood. Reinforced over time. And often… never questioned. In this episode, Adelle explores how early experiences shape core beliefs like:“I
She Lost 2 Years Of Her Life Then Did The Impossible PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 371
In this powerful episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Patricia shares how her life completely paused and how she slowly, courageously rebuilt it. From learning how to walk again, to returning to school filled with fear and self-doubt, to rising through the ranks and rediscovering her brilliance. This is a story about resilience, identity, and what it really means to start over. And if you’ve e
She Was Called “Useless”… So She Chose Herself | For Mannerless Women
She was told she was “useless.” In that moment, everything shifted. In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Terry Muikamba-Gitonga shares her journey from shrinking in toxic work environments to choosing herself and building something of her own. From navigating self-doubt and people-pleasing to doing the inner work and trusting her intuition, Terry opens up about what it really takes to
How Childhood Wounds Shape Your Relationships, Career & Self-Worth | Mid Week Tease
What if the patterns you struggle with today… started long before you even realized it? In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango sits down with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu for a powerful, eye-opening conversation ahead of the upcoming wellness talk: Becoming The Woman You Want To Be Together, they unpack how childhood wounds, including subtle emotional experiences like
I Left Kenya To Find Myself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 370
In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Blessing’s story. After leaving Kenya in search of a fresh start, Blessing shares her experience working in the Gulf as a domestic worker, navigating culture shock, isolation, and the emotional toll of being far from home. Despite her determination to rebuild her life, she found that the feelings she was trying to escape:
The 3 Things I Say Every Morning to Change My Mindset | Mid Week Tease
In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle shares the three simple statements she says every morning that have transformed how she experiences her days. Inspired by a neurosurgeon’s insight into how the brain works, this episode explores how your thoughts influence what your brain pays attention to, and how you can gently rewire your mind to notice more joy, progress, and possibility. In
I Left Kenya To Find Myself Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 369
In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Blessing shares the first part of her deeply personal story. Born in Nairobi to very young parents, Blessing grew up moving between homes, from Nairobi to Nakuru, Thika, and relatives’ houses, searching for stability in a childhood filled with uncertainty.After losing her father at a young age and navigating an emotionally distant relationship with
Who Protects Women When the Law Fails? | Difference She Makes
Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakesIn the final episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with South African human rights lawyer Sibongile Ndashe, founder of the Initiative for Strategic Litigation in Africa (ISLA), whose work sits at the intersection
She Helped Shape Nigeria’s Startup Act | Difference She Makes
Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakesIn this episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with Odunoluwa Longe, Founder of TLP Advisory and Co-Founder of DIY Law, to explore how women are shaping the legal frameworks powering Africa’s tech ecosystem.Odunol
Money Trauma, Limiting Beliefs & Financial Freedom For Women | For Mannerless Women
In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Waceke Nduati, founder of Centonomy, to unpack the real reasons many women struggle with money and how to reclaim financial agency without shame. This conversation goes far beyond budgeting.Together, they explore:How money trauma shapes women’s financial decisions- The limiting beliefs women are socialised to hold abou
The Life Box: A Simple Practice That Reminds You You’re Loved | Mid Week Tease
Some days we forget. We forget how loved we are. We forget the moments that made us proud.We forget the days we laughed until our stomach hurt. And it’s not because those moments didn’t happen. Psychology shows that our brains have a negativity bias, meaning painful experiences stick longer than joyful ones. Over time, our minds can begin to tell us a story that life has mostly been difficult, eve
Born Sighted, Diagnosed with Glaucoma At 13 PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 368
In Episode 368 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 2 of Nkirote’s remarkable story.In Part 1, we heard about her unstable childhood in Meru, the loss of her grandmother who raised her, and the gradual deterioration of her eyesight due to glaucoma. Teachers stepped in when family could not, raising funds for surgery and eventually helping her join Saint Lucy’s School for the Blind.Part 2
Be Gentle With Yourself But Stay Unwavering | Mid Week Tease
In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle reflects on a powerful idea from the final episode of Difference She Makes with South African human rights lawyer Sibongile Ndashe. While Sibongile spends her career challenging institutions and pushing legal systems to protect women, one line from the conversation stayed with Adelle long after the interview ended: “We must be gentle with each ot
Born Sighted, Diagnosed with Glaucoma at 13 PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 367
In Episode 367 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 1 of Nkirote’s powerful story. Born fully sighted in Meru County, Nkirote’s childhood was marked by instability, moving from one household to another, losing her primary caregiver, and navigating neglect and emotional hardship at a young age. At just 12–13 years old, her eyesight began deteriorating. What started as subtle vision proble
Who Are You Outside of Work? Rethinking Purpose & Career Identity | Mid Week Tease
What if your job disappeared tomorrow? Who would you be? In this week’s Midweek Tease, we unpack a powerful idea inspired by my recent conversation with Odunoluwa Longe on Difference She Makes: Your purpose should be your life, not your job. For many high-achieving women, identity and productivity have become intertwined. We are praised for being exceptional, indispensable, reliable. But what happ
Period Pain Was Ruining My Life PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 366
In Part 2 of Keziah Mumbi’s story, we move from suspicion… to diagnosis. After nine years of severe period pain, fainting, vomiting, job loss, and being dismissed by multiple doctors, Keziah finally meets a gynaecologist who believes her. The diagnosis? Stage 4 endometriosis. What doctors initially thought was “just a cyst” turned out to be far more serious. During laparoscopic surgery, surgeons d
She Had 14 Days to Run For Office | Difference She Makes
What happens when a woman steps into a leadership position that has only ever been held by men? And what happens when she decides to run… just two weeks before elections? In this episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with Natasha Ali Erry, Advocate of the High Court of Kenya and Chairperson of the Mombasa Law Society, to unpack mentorship, audacity, leadership, and the quiet pressure women
Maybe You’re Not Delusional | Mid Week Tease
What if you’re not unrealistic…What if you’re remembering what’s possible?In this week’s Mid Week Tease, I unpack something that stopped me in my tracks during my conversation with Natasha Ali on Difference She Makes. She said, almost laughing, “I think I’m a little delusional.” But what if that “delusion” is actually optimism bias?What if it’s self-efficacy?What if it’s the power of possible selv
Period Pain Was Ruining My Life PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 365
For years, Keziah Mumbi was told her pain was “normal.” At 12 years old, she began experiencing extremely heavy periods, severe cramps, vomiting, fainting, and anemia. She was going through an entire pack of pads a day. She stained her school uniform. She was sedated from pain. She missed classes. She lost jobs. And still doctors told her:“You’re too young to have endometriosis.”“It’s just hormone
Stop Shrinking Yourself: Why Women Downplay Their Power & How to Expand Anyway | Mid Week Tease
Are you shrinking yourself to feel safer, more lovable, less intimidating? In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on the quiet ways women, especially African women, make themselves smaller in their careers, relationships, and ambitions. Inspired by her recent conversation with Ruth Tanui on Difference She Makes, this episode explores:The psychology behind the confidence gapWhy wome
From Grief To Laughter PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 364
In Episode 364 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Kenyan stand-up comedian Rahab Kihuha shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful continuation that explores sobriety, motherhood, womanhood in male-dominated spaces, and what it truly means to heal holistically.In this episode, Rahab reflects on navigating the comedy industry as a woman, performing while pregnant, confronting patriarchy on and off stage,
She Built Her Own Law Firm After a Toxic System Tried to Break Her | Difference She Makes
In this episode of Difference She Makes, we explore how professional excellence becomes a quiet but powerful form of resistance inside deeply gendered institutions. Our guest, Ruth Tanui, is an Advocate of the High Court of Kenya and the Founder and Managing Partner of Tanui & Company Advocates.Through her journey, from navigating hostile work environments to building her own law firm, Ruth sh
Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease
What if “treating yourself” isn’t indulgence but a psychological necessity? In this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on how she’s learned to intentionally place joy into her life, especially around birthdays. From solo stays by the pool with poetry and silence, to beach days and bicycle tours, this episode explores why joy deserves to be planned, not postponed. Drawing from personal ritual a
From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363
In Episode 363 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Kenyan stand-up comedian Rahab Kihuha shares Part 1 of her powerful story, a deeply honest journey through grief, addiction, mental health struggles, and the unexpected role comedy played in her survival. Rahab opens up about losing her father, using alcohol to cope with pain, feeling emotionally unseen, and how stepping onto a comedy stage for the f
Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes
In this episode of Difference She Makes, we turn our focus to policies, the internal rules that determine whether institutions protect people in practice or only on paper. Adelle Onyango is joined by Zikhona Ndlebe, a South Africa–based judicial governance expert who has worked at the heart of policy reform within the legal system. Zikhona helps us understand why policies are not just administrati
Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women
Pregnancy and postpartum don’t just change a woman’s body they change her mind, her strength, and her sense of self. In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Winnie Okoth, elite CrossFit and Olympic weightlifting athlete and coach, for an honest conversation about postpartum realities we rarely prepare women for. Winnie shares her personal experience navigating:Postpart
Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease
Many women don’t struggle because they’re “too emotional.”They struggle because they’ve learned to abandon their emotional needs to keep connection. In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we explore the quiet, often invisible ways women self-silence in romantic relationships, friendships, and family not because they lack needs, but because expressing them once felt unsafe. This conversation unpacks em
Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362
In Episode 362 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 2 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who chose to be childfree and eventually underwent a vasectomy at 27, after years of being dismissed, questioned, and denied autonomy over his own body. In Part 1, William spoke about realising early in life that he did not want children, being parentified as a firstborn, navigating pregnancy sca
How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes
Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing:https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakes Kenya’s 2010 Constitution is often praised as one of the most progressive in the world, but a constitution alone does not create justice. People do.In this opening episode of Difference She Makes, host Adelle Onyango si
When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women
What happens when shame quietly teaches you to perform instead of be? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Kenyan comedian, activist, and writer Justine Wanda for a deeply honest conversation about shame, identity, adoption, grief, and unlearning survival modes. Justine shares how growing up adopted shaped her sense of belonging, why humour became a shield, and ho
The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease
Setting boundaries is often framed as empowering and it is.But what we don’t talk about enough is what comes after.The quiet.The emotional exhaustion.The loneliness that settles in when you stop over-giving, over-explaining, and abandoning yourself for the comfort of others. In this Mid Week Tease episode, Adelle Onyango explores the rarely discussed emotional aftermath of boundaries, especially f
Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361
In Episode 361 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 1 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who made the decision to be childfree at a very young age and spent years defending that choice in a society that insists everyone must eventually become a parent. Born and raised in Kericho, William reflects on growing up parentified as the firstborn, constantly caring for younger relatives, and
Becoming a Shame-Free Woman: Desire, Pleasure & Personal Liberation | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, filmmaker, and cultural commentator Abigail Arunga for an expansive, deeply honest conversation about shame, desire, pleasure, and what it truly means to arrive as a liberated woman. Together, they explore how women are socialised to shrink themselves, emotionally, physically, sensually and what it takes to begin unlear
Choosing A Life Others Didn’t Imagine For You: Being Childfree | Mid Week Tease
What does it mean to choose a life that doesn’t come with a ready-made script? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we sit with the quiet, complex reality of being childfree, not as a debate, not as a defence, but as a lived truth.Inspired by Part Two of Hekaya’s story in Episode 360 of Legally Clueless, this conversation explores what it really means to opt out of motherhood in a world that assumes
Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep360
In Part Two of Hekaya’s story, the conversation deepens into reproductive choice, healing, and what it means to consciously choose a childfree life. Hekaya reflects on getting pregnant while in university, choosing to terminate the pregnancy, and navigating the experience largely in silence. She speaks candidly about relief, guilt, and the shame that followed and how she continued with life before
Same Home, Different Childhoods: Sibling Dynamics | Mid Week Tease
What happens when siblings grow up under the same roof, but carry very different emotional experiences into adulthood? In this Mid Week Tease episode, inspired by Hekaya’s story on the Legally Clueless podcast, we explore the quiet complexity of sibling dynamics, birth order roles, comparison, and emotional safety within families. Many of us were raised believing that shared parents automatically
