Legally Clueless
Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality and social activist Adelle Onyango. She documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It also features Africans sharing stories from their lives that teach, make us cry, and make us laugh.
Episodes
She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 401
She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive Part 2 What happens when survival means making choices you never imagined you'd have to make?In Part 2 of Daughtie's story on the Legally Clueless podcast, we follow her journey into young adulthood as she navigates abusive relationships, exploitation, pregnancy, sex work and the difficult realities of trying to build a life without a st
The Problem With Women Who Say "Could Never Be Me" | Mid Week Tease
"Could never be me!"How often have you heard women say this when another woman shares her experience of heartbreak, betrayal, or a harmful relationship?But what if this response isn't just unkind? What if believing another woman's experience could never happen to you is also stopping you from learning from it? In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks why some women respond to
She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive | Legally Clueless Ep 400
She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive | Daughtie's Story (Part 1) What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you become the very people who hurt you? In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we meet Daughtie, whose extraordinary story of survival begins with a childhood marked by loss, sexual abuse, rejection and instability. After losing her parents, D
She Survived The Abuse. Why Was She Carrying The Shame? | For Mannerless Women
What happens when you stop carrying shame that was never yours to begin with?In this deeply personal Season 6 finale of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with award-winning creative producer Queen Gathoni to explore what it means to reclaim your voice, your story and ultimately, yourself.After surviving an abusive marriage and leaving with her young daughter, Gathoni rebuilt her life.
You're Not Bitter. Maybe Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You Something. | Mid Week Tease
Have you ever felt angry about something that happened months or even years ago, then immediately felt guilty for not being over it?Women are often taught to be patient, forgiving and understanding. But what happens when we're so busy extending compassion to everyone else that we forget to extend it to ourselves? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks our complicated relationship
He Called It Love. It Was Coercive Control PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 399
In the concluding part of Makena's story, a terrifying suspicion becomes reality when she confronts her partner about accessing her private conversations and information on her phone. What follows is a deeply personal account of digital surveillance, emotional abuse and coercive control, and the lasting impact of having your privacy, independence and sense of safety violated by someone you trusted
Who Benefits When Women Make Themselves Smaller? | For Mannerless Women
Who benefits when women believe they are too loud, too angry, too ambitious or simply too much?This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with feminist activist and Executive Director of Dada Collective Network, Zaha Indimuli, for a conversation about the many ways women are taught to make themselves smaller and what becomes possible when we refuse.They unpack respectability politics, sel
Is It Love Or Are You Being Controlled? | Mid Week Tease
What happens when control doesn’t actually feel like control? Sometimes it sounds like, “I just worry about you.” Sometimes jealousy feels like proof that someone really cares. Sometimes constantly checking in feels like closeness. And sometimes we slowly begin changing how we dress, who we see, where we go and what we say just to keep the peace.Inspired by Makena’s story on Legally Clueless, this
He Called It Love. It Was Coercive Control | Legally Clueless Ep 398
What happens when attention slowly turns into control?In Part 1 of Makena’s story, she shares how a relationship that began with friendship, attraction and fun gradually became possessive and controlling. It started with small things that were easy to explain away. Complicated rules around communication. Constant calls when she was out with friends. Accusations of cheating. Wanting constant access
When Choosing Yourself Means Distancing Yourself From Family | For Mannerless Women
What happens when choosing yourself means creating distance from the people who raised you?This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with psychologist Ivanna Waweru for an honest conversation about family, boundaries, identity and going no-contact.Ivanna shares her own experience of growing up in a chaotic and critical family environment, the different versions of herself she became in o
What If You Actually Believed Your Dreams Were Possible? | Mid Week Tease
What if the biggest thing standing between you and your dream isn’t your ability but whether you can actually see yourself living it? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks what it means to truly own your dreams to stop keeping the things you deeply desire at a safe distance and start believing that they deserve a real chance. Fresh from bringing For Mannerless Women Live to life, Adelle
She Quit School, Moved Countries & Questioned Everything She Believed PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 397
In the final part of Lisa Gaitho’s story, we follow her through one of the most personal shifts of her journey: questioning what she had been taught about faith and beginning to discover what spirituality could look like for herself. Lisa opens up about questioning Christianity, confronting how judgmental she had once been, and rebuilding her relationship with God outside of some of the beliefs sh
After Narcissistic Abuse: How Do You Find Yourself Again? | For Mannerless Women
What happens after you recognise narcissistic abuse? How do you begin to rebuild your life and yourself? In Part 2 of this For Mannerless Women conversation, Adelle sits down with psychologist and trauma therapist Perpetua Chomba to explore healing after narcissistic abuse. They talk about making sense of what happened without blaming yourself, grieving the relationship and future you imagined, re
The Woman You Become When You Learn to Be Alone | Mid Week Tease
When was the last time you spent time alone without reaching for your phone, filling the silence, or asking someone else what they think?This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores how solitude and silence can help women reconnect with themselves, rediscover what they actually want, and rebuild trust in their own intuition.From the expectations placed on women to constantly be availab
She Quit School, Moved Countries & Questioned Everything She Believed PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 396
Lisa moved to Nigeria for love. But what happens when the life you move into leaves little room for you to be yourself?In Part 2 of Lisa Gaitho’s story, we pick up where we left off: Lisa is back in Kenya, unsure of what to do next, when she meets a boyfriend and decides to move to Nigeria. What follows is a very different life from the one she grew up knowing. Living with her boyfriend’s family,
They Love Bomb You, Then Break You Down: Understanding Narcissistic Abuse | For Mannerless Women
What happens when the person who once made you feel like the centre of their world becomes the person who makes you question your worth?The constant attention. The big promises. The feeling that you've finally found someone who truly understands you. And then, slowly, the affection changes. The criticism begins. Your boundaries are tested. You find yourself holding on to the person they were at th
Why Do We Hate Women We’re Secretly Jealous Of? | Mid Week Tease
Have you ever disliked a woman who hadn't actually done anything to you? Maybe her confidence irritated you, her success made you uncomfortable, or you found yourself picking apart her life without really understanding why. What if the problem isn't her, but what her life brings up in you?In this week's episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks jealousy, envy, and the uncomfortable way
She Quit School, Moved Countries & Questioned Everything She Believed | Legally Clueless Ep 395
How do you figure out what you want to do with your life when nothing seems to quite fit?In Part 1 of Lisa Gaitho’s story, she takes us from a playful childhood growing up in Nairobi West to a high school experience she desperately wanted to escape and into years of trying to figure out where she belonged. Lisa tried journalism. She tried hotel and restaurant management. She eventually found culin
It’s Never Too Late To Start Again | For Mannerless Women
What if the life you really want begins after the age you were told you should have everything figured out?In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sally Sawe, Co-Founder and COO of The Partnership Agency, for a beautiful conversation about ageing, starting again and giving yourself permission to build a life that is entirely your own. Approaching 40, Sally walked away from a
You Left. So Why Do You Still Want to Go Back? | Mid Week Tease
Leaving a harmful relationship is one thing. Staying gone can be another battle entirely.Inspired by Ann’s story on the Legally Clueless podcast, this week Adelle explores what it actually means to choose yourself while trying to leave an emotionally abusive or harmful relationship and in the days, weeks and months after you’ve walked away. Because going back doesn’t make you weak.In this episode,
I Thought I’d Marry Him. Then I Learned The Truth PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 394
After eight years of loving someone, what happens when you finally find the answers to the questions you’ve been asking all along?In the final part of Ann Wachera’s story, we pick up after another painful breakup with the man Ann once believed she would marry.Ann tries to move forward. She blocks him. Unblocks him. Goes to therapy. And eventually, the two find themselves back in each other’s lives
Your Body Was Never The Problem | For Mannerless Women
What if the shame you carry about your body was never yours to begin with? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Connie Tipis, clinical psychologist and Co-Founder & CEO of Double Dee’s Lingerie Kenya & Uganda for a conversation about body shame, body confidence and learning to come home to ourselves. Connie shares how growing up fuller-busted changed the way she m
10 Of The Worst Pieces Of Advice Women Are Given | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle is looking at 10 of the worst pieces of advice women are given, in her opinion.From being told to reduce your financial ambitions so you don’t intimidate a man, to submitting for the sake of peace, enduring because “marriage is hard,” putting your career second, maintaining your appearance so a man doesn’t cheat, and being told that ultimately, every woman n
I Thought I’d Marry Him. Then I Learned the Truth PART 2 | Legally Cueless Ep 393
What happens when you see the red flags, ask the questions and even find some of the answers but you’re still not ready to let go of the future you imagined with someone?In Part 2 of Ann’s story, we pick up after Ann discovers the first lie in a relationship she believes is leading to marriage. As the relationship continues, Ann and her partner move in together and begin imagining a future. But al
How Much Of Yourself Have You Abandoned For Love? | For Mannerless Women
What happens when loving someone slowly becomes abandoning yourself?In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with businesswoman, creative and MC Dushy Kuria for an honest conversation about divorce, relationships, therapy, self-worth and finding your way back to yourself.For the first time, Dushy speaks publicly about her divorce, from what led her into marriage at 26, to
The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease
Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly
I Thought I’d Marry Him. Then I Learned the Truth | Legally Clueless Ep 392
What happens when the beliefs you have about love, marriage and relationships are shaped long before you ever fall in love?In Part 1 of Ann Wachera’s story, Ann takes us back to losing her mum at just seven years old, being raised by her grandparents and the experiences that shaped how she came to understand womanhood, sex, pregnancy and marriage.Years later, at university, Ann meets a man she bel
Starting Over in Your 40s: The Life You Didn’t Plan | For Mannerless Women
Season 6 of For Mannerless Women is here and we're beginning with the brilliant Kaz Lucas.What happens when the life you're living no longer looks like the life women are told we're supposed to want? In this episode, Adelle sits down with Kaz for a deeply honest conversation about divorce in your 40s, grief, loneliness, being childfree, queer womanhood, friendship, community and the courage it tak
Would You Let Anyone Else Talk To You Like This? | Mid Week Tease
What happens when the person you hear most is constantly criticising you? This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks negative self-talk: the cruel, critical and sometimes deeply familiar voice we can mistake for our own truth. She explores where our inner critic comes from, why being hard on ourselves can feel like a form of motivation or protection, and the important question we rarely stop
What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 391
What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 391What happens when achieving the career you fought so hard for comes at a cost you never expected?In Part 2 of Ella’s story, she takes us deeper into her experience as a young woman working in aviation maintenance. Ella opens up about navigating a male-dominated workplace, experiencing sexual harassment, the victim-blaming and silence
How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease
What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts?This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore.But self-trust isn'
What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 390
What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Ella’s Story Part 1 What does it take to find your place in an industry that constantly makes you feel like you have something to prove? In Part 1 of Ella’s story, she takes us from her childhood in Western Kenya, through moving between different sides of her family, bullying in school and the years she spent trying to figure out who she wanted to become. E
The Lies Women Were Told About Aging (And Why So Many Of Us Believe Them) | Mid Week Tease
There comes a point where many women stop fearing wrinkles and start fearing what they've been taught wrinkles mean.In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories women inherit about aging, from the belief that our worth has an expiry date to the pressure of ticking invisible life milestones before it's "too late."Drawing on psychology, sociology and personal reflection, this episode ex
I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 389
I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 2) What happens when you've done everything you were told would lead to success and life still doesn't go according to plan? In Part Two of Tanya Nyambura's story, the reality of adulthood collides with everything she believed growing up. After years of academic excellence, Tanya enters the job market expecting her hard work to finally pay o
More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why | Mid Week Tease
More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why. More women are choosing to step away from dating, delete the apps, embrace celibacy, or simply stop making romantic relationships the centre of their lives. But is this really about giving up on love? Or are we witnessing something much bigger? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the cultural and psychological shift behin
I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? | Legally Clueless Ep 388
I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 1)What if the biggest lie you were ever told was that good grades guarantee a good life? In this week's episode, Tanya Nyambura takes us back to her childhood, where academic performance wasn't just about school, it determined how you were seen, how you felt about yourself, and what you believed your future would become.Growing up, Tanya int
The Truth About Why African Women Struggle To Choose Themselves | For Mannerless Women
The Truth About Why African Women Struggle To Choose Themselves | Leyla HusseinWhy do so many African women feel guilty for resting, spending money on themselves, taking up space or simply enjoying life? In this season finale of For Mannerless Women: The Special Audio Season, Adelle sits down with Leyla Hussein, psychotherapist, writer, entrepreneur, BAFTA-nominated activist and one of the BBC's 1
Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself | Mid Week Tease
Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With YourselfSomewhere between meeting expectations, caring for everyone else, surviving heartbreak, building careers, and simply getting through life, many women find themselves asking a painful question: "Who am I now?"In this week's episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango shares eight practical ways to reconnect with yourself, not by becoming someone new, but
I Was Bullied For Being Myself PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 387
Trusting The Process (Part 3)What do you do when everything you've worked so hard to build falls apart? In the final part of Johnny's story, his thriving career takes an unexpected turn. He closes his studio, battles depression, questions everything he's built, and finds himself back at square one. But just when it seems like the story is over, one unexpected moment changes the course of his life
Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | For Mannerless Women
Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | Jaxx Of All Trades on Redefining Womanhood What does it really mean to become a free woman? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with South African social, political and current affairs commentator Jaxx Of All Trades for a thought-provoking conversation on identity, confidence, beauty standards, freedom and choosing a life beyond society's
The Hidden Cost Of Losing Yourself In Love | Mid Week Tease
The Hidden Cost of Losing Yourself in LoveHow do intelligent, capable women slowly lose themselves in relationships without even noticing? In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the subtle ways many women begin organising their lives around everyone else's needs while quietly losing touch with their own. Drawing from psychology, personal experience, and insights from accredited psychologis
I Was Bullied For Being Myself PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 386
I Was Bullied For Being Myself (Part 2) After choosing hairdressing over university, Johnny is determined to prove to himself, and his family, that he made the right decision. In Part Two of his story, we follow his journey from earning KSh 4,800 a month in his first salon job to becoming one of Kenya's most sought-after celebrity hairstylists. But success comes with difficult choices. Johnny open
The Freedom Of Choosing Yourself | For Mannerless Women
The Freedom Of Choosing YourselfWhat if the life you've been told to want isn't the only beautiful life available to you?This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Zimbabwean musician, mbira player, published poet and artist Hope Masike for a conversation about reclaiming freedom, questioning the timelines women inherit, and creating a life that feels deeply aligned. Together they ex
The Silent Cost Of Being The Strong Woman | Mid Week Tease
The Silent Cost Of Being The Strong Woman | Mid Week Tease Women account for nearly 80% of people diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. While biology, hormones, genetics and environmental factors are all important pieces of the puzzle, another question deserves our attention:What does decades of emotional suppression, chronic caregiving and relentless stress do to a woman's body?In this week's Mid W
I Was Bullied For Being Myself | Legally Clueless Ep 385
I Chose Myself Every Time | Jony The Hairdresser (Part 1)Many know Jony The Hairdresser as the celebrity hairstylist behind some of Kenya's biggest names. Others know him as the hilarious Sister Nancy and Brother Bernard from social media. But before any of that, he was a little boy from Naivasha trying to understand why simply being himself made him a target.In Part One of Jony's story, he takes
The Most Powerful Question A Woman Can Ask Herself: "What Do I Want?" | For Mannerless Women
The Most Powerful Question A Woman Can Ask Herself: "What Do I Want?" | Sofi (The Oddity) What happens when you stop living according to everyone else's expectations and start making decisions based on what you truly want? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with digital creator, storyteller and podcaster Sofi (The Odditty) for a deeply honest conversation about reclaiming ow
Your Marriage Ended. Your Story Didn't. | Finding Yourself After Divorce with Faith Guchu | Mid Week Tease
Your Marriage Ended. Your Story Didn't. | Finding Yourself After Divorce with Faith Guchu Divorce isn't just the end of a marriage. It's the loss of shared dreams, identity, routines, belonging, and sometimes even yourself. In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle sits down with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu for an honest conversation about what healing after divorce really looks like. Together
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 384
"I Was Declared Cancer-Free"At just 25 years old, Annkia was diagnosed with a rare form of bladder cancer after living with unexplained pain for most of her life.In the final part of her story, she shares the emotional days leading up to major surgery, surviving a life-threatening bout of sepsis, and the remarkable care she received from a doctor who not only treated her illness but restored her h
The Gap Between Who They See & Who You Are | For Mannerless Women
What happens when the woman the world celebrates isn't the same woman you experience when you're alone?In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with DJ, broadcaster, creative entrepreneur, and healer Precious Nkadimeng (Spoken Priestess) for a powerful conversation about self-trust, spirituality, identity, and the journey back to yourself.Together, they explore the tension between
The Lie Women Are Sold About Being Good | Mid Week Tease
The Lie Women Are Sold About Being Good What if one of the greatest obstacles to your freedom isn't other people, it's the version of womanhood you've been taught to perform? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the hidden costs of being "a good woman," why so many women struggle to choose themselves, and the deeper fear that often sits underneath self-abandonment: the fear of freedo
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 383
For years, Annkia knew that something wasn't right.She had spent most of her life living with pain, navigating hospital visits, procedures, medication, and conflicting diagnoses. But despite everything she was experiencing, the answers never seemed to come.In Part 2 of her story, Annkia shares what happened when she finally met a doctor who listened. What followed was a series of tests that reveal
Pleasure, Freedom & The Myth Of The Good Woman | For Mannerless Women
Pleasure, Freedom & The Myth Of The Good Woman | Nana Darkoa SekyiamahWhat does it mean to be a "good woman"?And who benefits when women spend their lives trying to fit into that role?In the first episode of this special season of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, activist and author Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah for a deeply liberating conversation about pleasure, freedom, w
What Ends With You? Breaking Generational Cycles | Mid Week Tease
This week on Mid Week Tease, we're talking about generational cycles! Not just the obvious ones, but the invisible family rules, coping mechanisms, beliefs and survival strategies that quietly shape our lives. Many of us inherit ways of thinking, loving, communicating and surviving long before we're old enough to question them. We grow up believing they're simply part of who we are. But what happe
Living In Pain Since I Was 9 Years Old | Legally Clueless Ep 382
For years, Annkia knew something wasn't right. At just 9 years old, she was living with constant pain, countless trips to the bathroom, and long periods away from school. As doctors searched for answers, she found herself navigating a childhood marked by hospital visits, procedures, medication, and the loneliness of being misunderstood.In Part 1 of her story, Annkia shares what it was like growing
The Red Flag We Mistake For Vulnerability | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores one of the most confusing relationship dynamics: loving someone who is deeply attached to being the victim. Not everyone who has experienced pain is stuck in victimhood. Many people carry trauma, grief and heartbreak while still taking accountability for their actions. But what happens when someone's wounds become their identity? When every ex was t
My Teacher Said I Would Amount To Nothing PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 381
As a child, Jeanette Soi was repeatedly made to feel like she wasn't smart enough. In part two of her story, she shares how years of favoritism, public humiliation, and discouraging comments from teachers followed her into high school, shaping how she saw herself and her future.By Form Two, the pressure had become so overwhelming that she began questioning whether life was worth living. But throug
Who Are You Beyond Your Wounds? | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores a question many of us rarely ask ourselves:Who are you beyond your wounds?As women, we're often praised for how much we can endure. We celebrate resilience, sacrifice, and survival. But what happens when pain becomes the primary way we understand ourselves? In this episode, Adelle unpacks why so many women build identities around struggle, why suffe
My Teacher Said I Would Amount To Nothing | Legally Clueless Ep 380
When Jeanette Soi was growing up, school became a place where she slowly began to question her worth. In this deeply relatable episode, Jeanette shares memories of being publicly shamed for her grades, experiencing favoritism from teachers, and carrying the painful belief that her academic performance determined her future.As teachers and classmates repeatedly reinforced the idea that she wasn't s
The Women’s Health Conversation We Should’ve Had Years Ago | For Mannerless Women
What if the things women have been taught to “just endure” are actually signs that something is wrong?In this season finale of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Consultant Obstetrician & Gynecologist Dr Claire Kinuthia for one of the most important conversations we’ve had on the show.Together, they unpack menstrual cycles, PMS, PMDD, PCOS, fibroids, endometriosis, perimenopause
You’re Probably Resting Wrong. The 7 Types Of Rest We Actually Need | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the different kinds of rest and why sleep alone may not be fixing your exhaustion. So many of us are burnt out in ways we haven’t learned to name. We sleep, take breaks, scroll online, binge shows and still feel tired. Why? Because not all exhaustion is physical.In this episode, Adelle explores the 7 different types of rest, from emotional re
I Married The Wrong Man At 17 PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 379
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, Annitah Rae shares the second part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about surviving domestic violence in her marriage, becoming a young mother, struggling with alcoholism, navigating fame and media success while battling depression and suicidal thoughts privately, and the long journey toward healing, accountability, and self-awareness.Anni
Finding Your Voice & Refusing To Shrink As A Woman | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with activist, civic creator and political commentator Tatiana Gicheru for a powerful conversation about courage, womanhood, activism and choosing yourself unapologetically.Tatiana opens up about:Standing up to authority from a young ageFinding her voice through blogging & storytellingPleasure, shame & reclaiming ownership of wome
The Relationship Was Emotionally Unsafe | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks emotional abuse in romantic relationships what it is, how it manifests, why it’s often difficult to identify, and the long-term impact it can have on your nervous system, self-worth and sense of reality. Many people only recognize abuse when it becomes physical. But emotional abuse can be quieter, subtler and deeply destabilizing. It can look like ga
I Married The Wrong Man At 17 | Legally Clueless Ep 378
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, media personality, mental health advocate and GBV activist Annitah Rae shares the first part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about growing up feeling deeply loved by her father but struggling through a painful relationship with her mother, becoming rebellious as a teenager, substance use, running away from home, surviving life on the stre
Being Child-Free, Pleasure & Redefining Fulfillment | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with lawyer and entrepreneur Bev Munga, founder of Gspot Kenya and popularly known as “The Vibrating Lawyer.” In this bold and honest conversation, Bev opens up about:Building one of Kenya’s most talked-about pleasure brandsThe backlash she faced for centering women’s pleasureChoosing a child-free lifeSolo travel as self-careFulfillment o
The Discomfort Of No Longer People Pleasing | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the emotional discomfort that can come with finally standing up for yourself after years of people pleasing, weak boundaries, over-giving and self-abandonment. From romantic relationships to friendships, this episode explores what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable. Why does setting boundaries feel guilty?Why do
I Refused To Stay Silent PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 377
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. After spending years learning to silence her voice, Kui shares what happened when she slowly began reconnecting with herself again.From moving abroad at a young age, to navigating academia, leadership, activism, workplace politics, burnout, and eventually choosing to step away from the working world
Motherhood, Friendship Shifts & Choosing Yourself With Mama Olive | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mama Olive for a deeply honest conversation about motherhood, identity, friendship shifts, community, and choosing yourself.Mama Olive opens up about the realities of single motherhood, navigating postpartum rage, losing herself in relationships, and the emotional exhaustion that comes with raising children, especially without enough s
You’re Not Lazy. Maybe You’re Self-Sabotaging | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve.In
I Refused To Stay Silent | Legally Clueless Ep 376
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we begin Part 1 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. Kui takes us through her childhood growing up between Nairobi and Mombasa, being raised by multiple mother figures, and the powerful lineage of women who shaped her storytelling voice. She shares what it was like to grow up as a “different” child outspoken, curious, and deeply aware of injustice and how tho
A Man Is Not Oxygen: Choosing Yourself Without Fear | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, we sit down with Ciku Cheru, author, journalist, storyteller, and explorer, for a conversation that will challenge everything you’ve been taught about womanhood. From her grandmother who refused marriage and still built a full, thriving life, to her own journey of solo travel across 60+ countries, this episode is a powerful reminder that there is no one way to li
Why You Always Assume The Worst | Mid Week Tease
Have you ever had one small thing happen and within minutes your mind convinced you your whole life was about to fall apart? A delayed text becomes rejection. A difficult conversation becomes disaster. A money challenge becomes total collapse.This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks catastrophizing, the mental habit of assuming the worst-case scenario, and why so many of us confuse fear wit
The Shame I Inherited As A Child PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 375
What messages did you receive about yourself as a child and how have they shaped the way you love, trust and show up in the world today? In part one of this deeply moving two-part story, Wanjirah Kimani takes us back to her childhood in Murang’a, being raised by her grandmother, navigating parental absence, experiencing shame at home, and growing up believing love had to be earned through performa
Self-Love Is an Action. Here’s How to Rebuild It | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Temina Semo for a deeply honest conversation on self-love, identity, and the journey back to yourself. Temina shares what it was like growing up confident and expressive only to find herself shrinking in environments that tried to silence her.From strict school systems to societal expectations, we explore how many women slowly disconne
Boundaries Will Cost You Relationships And That’s Okay | Mid Week Tease
Setting boundaries will change your relationships. Not because you’re doing something wrong,but because you’re no longer showing up in ways that require you to abandon yourself. In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks why boundaries feel so difficult, why people react when you start setting them, and how to begin choosing yourself, without guilt.If you’ve ever struggled with
Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 374
In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Loise Njeri shares part 2 of her journey as a mama fua and what it really took to turn a side hustle into a business. After starting out doing laundry from her home while working a bank job, Loise opens up about the moment she decided to take a leap of faith and fully commit to her business, even when she wasn’t sure it would work.From opening her f
Therapy, Self-Worth & Choosing Yourself, Auntie Jemimah on Healing Out Loud | For Mannerless Women
What happens when the person who makes everyone laugh, is struggling inside? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with comedian and content creator Auntie Jemimah for a deeply honest conversation about healing, self-worth, and choosing yourself, fully and unapologetically.Auntie Jemimah opens up about how cyberbullying pushed her into therapy, the childhood experiences that
When Your Partner Feels Threatened By Your Growth | Mid Week Tease
There’s a kind of relationship that doesn’t look toxic at first. No shouting. No chaos. No obvious red flags. But something feels off. Your wins don’t feel safe to share. You feel like you’re “too much.”You start shrinking, just to keep the peace.On this week’s Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks a dynamic many women experience but struggle to name: What happens when the man you’re with is in c
Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business | Legally Clueless Ep 373
In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, Loise Njeri shares her journey of becoming a mama fua, and how what started as survival slowly turned into a business. Raised in Nyandarua by a single mother who did everything she could to provide, Loise grew up watching firsthand what it means to work hard, adapt, and show up for your family, even when resources are limited. From navigating cultur
I Did The Most Trying To Be Loved Then I Had To Face Myself | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sarah Mukabana (Plus Wanga Princess) for a raw, honest, and deeply relatable conversation about self-worth, validation, and what it really takes to come back to yourself. From losing herself in a relationship where she constantly sought to be chosen, to navigating the messy aftermath of a breakup, Sarah opens up about the moments many women
